New Year, New Edges
It's four days into the new year and many people are making resolutions and setting goals to become better people over the course of 2018. While I am not one for making yearly resolutions, I can understand one's desire for setting goals in attempt to kickstart healthy habits.
One of the things that I, myself, would deem worthy of adding to the list of things to improve upon in 2018 is leaving these little girl's edges alone. Of course, this is something that is only applicable to those who are parents or guardians of tiny women. However, it is dire that I address this issue despite the topic's small audience.
As Black women, we deal with a number of issues as it pertains to our hair. If your hair is tightly coiled, "too" short, or thin, you are more than likely going to be made the butt of someone's crude joke about "be-de-beads" or paper-thin wraps. But out of all of these "offences" there is nothing worse than not having an adequate amount of edges. And from my experience the issue with retaining full edges start while the child is young and often too young to care for their own hair. That being said, parents, leave these babies' and their edges alone!
I'll be the first to admit that my mother wasn't the perfect parent—hell, who is? However, of the many things that she’s done, she made sure to leave us in the best shape as it pertained to our edges. I can remember growing up and begging my mother to braid my hair in some of the more popular styles. Her response would often be something along the lines of her wanting us to be able to have edges that fit into the ponytail. Now, this isn't to say that any style that's trending is bad for your hair's health. However, it's meant to encourage y'all to think twice before your grip up those edges.
Black girls grow up to be Black women; and as we all know Black women be going through some shit in this American life. That being said, don't give them even more bullshit to endure because you thought your baby would look cute in box braids at the age of 3. The constant pulling and tension isn't healthy and can lead to long-term hair loss.
Moreover, as children age, they unfortunately face more bullying and teasing from peers. This isn't to justify bullying, it is simply facing reality. I am a realist and I know that, kids are fucking evil. This truth is displayed every time a child commits suicide due to bullying. That being said, why would you set your child up to receive reticule?
I didn't mean to get that deep into the subject, but the reality is that many things are like the domino effect—it just takes one thing to set off the bell. So, leave them damn babies' alone and let them have edges. Stop pulling their hair out because you think it's a "cute" style.
Afros and Ovaries
New year, new edges
P.S. Stop putting relaxers in these girls heads at the age of five because you “just want to stretch out the curl”. I’m tired of seeing little girls with little to no hair because you don’t know how to and refuse to learn how to manage tightly coiled hair.