Dear Women, This is a Guide to Properly Dressing During the Summer Months
As the summer heat approaches, and coats go on clearance at Macy’s I want to give some summer apparel advice. Because this space is focused on the enrichment, education, and support of Black folk, women, and specifically Black women, it would be remiss of me if I didn’t attempt to give some guidance on garnering the attention and respect of men during the summer months while being fashionable and cool.
The first bit of advice that I can lend is to stop listening to these niggas and wear what the fuck you want to wear. And now that I think about it, that’s really all the advice I have for y’all on this subject. As we know, niggas gone do what the hell they want to do. That being said, don’t stress out about what they may think or say about your garments this summer. It’s hot, we’re all trying to find a protective style or master the three strand twist out; the last thing that you need to be worried about is what these niggas got to say about the length of your shorts or the amount of cellulite you have while your sport your sundress. Fuck ‘em and their ashy ass opinions.
The only advice I have for these niggas is to simply mind your business. If she wants to come outside of her house with her shorts, let her. Focus on finding your all white outfit that you’re going to wear to the club and move on. Women don’t need your comments about how they should dress like queens instead of “street vendors”. In addition, the clothing a woman chooses to wear isn’t an indicator of the amount of respect that she holds for herself or her community. In these last and evil days, minding your business is a gift—take advantage. Last, a key element to minding your business is not assuming that women who show more skin are inviting sexual advances or street harassment. That’s not cool; it’s just creepy and annoying.
Ladies, just know that some woman that goes to bed at 10pm on a Saturday night in preparation for morning worship on Sunday is getting cheated on just as much as the “hoe” in the club. And as we all know internalized misogyny is a thing, so while she irons here denim floor length skirt in preparation for her summer plans and talks shit about women who “don’t respect themselves”, know that she’s a part of the problem too. If you are one of those women that talk shit about the choices of other women, do all of us a favor and mind your business.
Moral of this unorganized rant is to simply do what you want, mind your business when things don’t endanger you or others, and be happy. Know that different people are empowered by different things. Some people feel comfortable and empowered with less clothes while some feel empowered by more clothes. Either way, it’s okay and their choices should be respected.
Don’t be a dick this summer. Just enjoy your snow cones and mind your damn business, please.
Afros and Ovaries
Waiting on the Ice Cream Trucks
P.S. I also don't need niggas asking me if my man "lets" me out the house wearing certain things. I don't need permission from no nigga to do shit. Again, minding your business is a slept on key.
P.P.S. Shout out to the woman in the thumbnail photo. Just because she's gorgeous.