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If You Don't Understand Black Lives Matter By Now, You're Probably A Racist

If You Don't Understand Black Lives Matter By Now, You're Probably A Racist

As some may know, I am now a married woman.

I attempted to write a blog about the process of planning a wedding and I’ve also thought about expanding my engagement site to something a little more permanent. You know, I wanted to do good wife stuff. I wanted to include some blogs and vlogs of my husband and I doing cute things that would potentially make us someone’s #baegoals. While trying to do all of these things, I couldn’t ignore the many shootings that have happened over the past few days. It seems like a life is unjustly taken every day. That’s what brings me here.

If you’re a sucker for wedding details or you wanted to know more about my center pieces at my wedding, you can blame racism and our court system for the holdup of that material being published. I can’t seem to even find the words to explain the hue of purple that was included in my uplighting because I literally have a mental block. The only thing my mind can seem to focus on at the moment is the ways in which Black bodies are devalued and the ways that black lives are treated as markers for target practice.

This post won’t take the time to dive into the many ways that institutional racism is at play during these encounters with law enforcement and Black folk, but this post will basically serve as a way to say “fuck you” to all the folk that find the perfect way to explain and excuse poor and reckless behavior by the boys in blue. I say this because I’m exhausted. I’m tired of trying to explain the concept of All Lives vs. Black Lives vs. Blue Lives… blah, blah, blah. By now, these ideas have been explained through every single social media and mass media outlet by several different people. If you don’t understand why it’s important to support the Black Lives Matter movement in effort to dismantle the blatant killings of innocent Black people, you don’t want to understand-- you’re willfully ignorant. Moreover, you’re ignoring facts and proven trends as a means of supporting your own bigotry. It’s pretty simple.

The people that are against Black Lives Matter and the similar movements aren’t stupid and they don’t lack education. They are simply racist. I say that firmly and I’ll fight anyone who disagrees with me. Going out of your way to justify the killings of innocent people lead me to believe that you are a racist. Furthermore, pouting and burning jerseys because a group of people have decided that enough is enough and they have found a peaceful way to protest using their platform also supports the idea that you are a racist. It’s not that the form of protest disrespects the military, it’s just that you don’t want these people to stand up for themselves. You want them to sit quietly and endure the name calling, killing, and systematic oppression. The protests aren’t wrong. The protest simply make you feel uncomfortable. People speaking of the years of oppression and racial bias in this country upset you. It’s as if your special powers have been revealed. This frustrates you and results in making excuses for the state of affairs in this country. These things are presented and the only way to pretend that it doesn’t exists is to also pretend that race doesn’t exist-- pretend that racism died with the “I have a dream” speech.

In reality, we know all of that is a great American lie. You would rather swim across the ocean to find a peaceful MLK quote than to face the music and realize that he was murdered by this same racial oppression that we’re fighting today. You’ll do all of those things to prove to yourself that you’re not a racist,but instead it’s the Black on Black crime that’s causing police officers to kill innocent Black men. Your denial is causing you to perpetuate the issues that are in this country. But you don’t care about being a part of the problem because you’re a racist. Simple.

That said, fuck you. If you would rather find excuses to support oppression of any sort, you ain't no friend of mine. We have video evidence of the law spitting in our faces and you want to skate the issues to argue that being a member of law enforcement is difficult and blah, blah, blah. Something else that’s also difficult is damn near having a heart attack when you’re pulled over by the police. I’m tired of searching for non offensive words and phrases to describe people who are simply racist. Enough is enough-- Fuck y’all.

And no, this isn’t a “fuck you” to the entire White community. There are some Black folk out there cooning and not seeing color too. This is simply calling out all of those who ignore the facts and support this oppression. This weekend someone told me that they were shocked to learn that one of my best friends was a White woman. This is because they noticed the things that I write about and the posts that I share on social media. I feel as if this is the perfect time to address that thinking. Do I hate White people? Hell, no. Do I hate White supremacy and those who support it? Yes. Which reminds me of the quote “Pro-Black isn’t Anti-White”. I can present an argument that criticizes racism and use the term “white people” generally and it’s understood that by that I mean racist White folk. I’ve seen my socially aware White friends on social media comment “White people get on my nerves” more times than a little bit. I just chuckle and like the status because I know what they mean by it. They’re referring to the “I don’t see color” folk.

Just because I’m not out here giving out free hugs to the police as they stand on a riot line doesn’t mean I hate all police. In the same way, I don’t go around letting “wypipo” touch my hair or hold up signs that read “Your life matters too”. I don’t do that because that’s just not my thing. Like most things my time and energy are finite resources. That being said, it’s imperative that I use them wisely. I’d rather use my time doing something to uplift the Black community before I go around trying to comfort privileged White people who probably call me a “colored” at home. I don’t have the time to comfort White people and shield them from White guilt. I don’t have the time and I don’t want the time. I don’t want to be superior than anyone, I just want to be treated equally and fairly. However, I’m not going to apologize for my desire to want justice and equality. I will never apologize for that and no one should.

Be Great,
Afros and Ovaries

*Just trying to figure out what’s in the water that got these people so trigger happy*

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