Another Black Woman Gone...
If I’m not too sleepy at night, I usually spend about 30 minutes in bed watching YouTube videos, scrolling through social media, or watching snaps of my friends at the club. Last night was no different. I laid in bed scrolling through my Facebook feed and I saw what looked like to be another tragic event with a Black woman, Korryn Gaines, losing her life to law enforcement. I locked the screen on my iOS device and closed my eyes. I didn’t skim the article or read the press release, I just locked my phone and went to sleep. I didn’t want to end my day with such sadness.
This morning I woke up and that same story was staring me straight in the face. This time I took the time to read the articles that were attached to the story. I shared the story and I decided that I needed a mental break from social media for at least a day. This was a decision that I made for a number of reasons. First, I’m simply emotionally exhausted from all that’s happened domestically with police brutality and I decided that I didn’t want to have high blood pressure today. Second, I saw a handful of Black men commenting on the post noting that it was her fault that she’s dead and calling her “everything but a child of God”.
More than anything, I think the comments made by these Black men disturbed me the most. I’ve grown accustomed to racist White folk saying dumb shit about Black people being killed by law enforcement. However, when these Black men who more than likely have Black mothers insult a Black woman, it makes my insides turn upside down. I’m not sure if I had the urge to throw up in my mouth because often when people riot, protest, or boycott, it’s in response to Black men who have had their lives taken by law enforcement (and more than likely, Black women are some of the main people leading these marches and demonstrations) or if it’s because I was disgusted by the blatant sexism.
We must not forget that it was Black women who started the Black Lives Matter movement—but somehow it’s mainly Black men that are invited to sit on CNN, MSNBC, and other news networks to represent the movement. We must not forget that there is often an overwhelming amount of Black women that are actively participating in the marches and risking their freedom during demonstrations. In other words, the same people they disrespect and dismiss are often the same folk that will be willing to sit in county jail on a charge of “disorderly conduct”. We won’t even start to discuss how they treat the Blacks that are homosexual.
We’re tired as fuck. We’re tired of pouring out our hearts and souls to defend and protect Black men just to receive a strong “fuck you” when we ask for a little help and support in return. We are so loyal to a cause that can turn around and shit on us. Something has to change and soon. We’ve got to do better as a whole, but Black men, y’all have got to do better immediately. We can’t afford for you to be so overcome with sexism and respectability politics that you sit and wait for the opportunity to defecate on the graves of slain Black women. So many people shared and liked the speech given by Jesse Williams at the BET awards, but missed a critical point within the speech. The part where he notes that Black men have got to start doing better by supporting, appreciating, and loving Black women. That’s a part that many Black men skipped because it puts them to task.
Right here, right now, I’m not asking, but I’m demanding that Black men do better by us as Black women. We’ve done so much for these progressive movements that mainly bring light to the killings and mistreatment of Black men and the least we can receive in return is pure respect. Do better.
Either y’all respect us or catch these hands in the streets when I hear you talking that good bullshit. Your choice. Y’all better join us in making some noise about this situation or I swear you better be ready to catch this heat when I see you at the family cookout! We’re more than holes for you to stick your “thing” in. We are people and our lives matter just like the Black men that have hashtags, marches, and protest attached to their names. I’m mad and I might swing on a nigga if he spitting that bullshit in front of me. Give me a few days to calm down-- I still might beat that ass though.
Afros and Ovaries
Taking my earrings off in preparation to fight…