Loud Mouthed Ass Black Women
There have been plenty of times that I have held myself from speaking up during mistreatment or rude insults because I didn’t want to come off as the “loud black woman”. While planning my wedding, I’ve had to deal with some less than nice potential vendors and in the face of clear inflation, I’ve held my tongue to appear more docile and “ladylike”. As much as I personally advocate for the liberation of Black women and the end of tone policing, there are still times where I find myself trying to seem “less threatening”. This shit has got to end.
Erica Garner, the daughter of Eric Garner, had a loud Black girl moment when she walked out of a Presidential townhall focused on race. After watching her social media videos and posts, I gather that she was mainly upset about false promises made by ABC. Long story short, she was pissed because the ABC producers told her that she would be able to speak with President Obama and express her concerns. Of course, when she got there, none of this happened. This was the cause of her sudden walk out—her own form of protest. While she was eventually able to speak to President Obama, she still felt jaded by the entire ordeal.
This entire occasion led to an important conversation about the voices of Black women. Erica noted that it’s a shame that Black people have to “yell and become belligerent to have our voices heard.” This is something that many Black women experience, including me. Due to lack of appreciation and value for Black lives and opinions, many people feel as if they can do and say whatever they desire without much combativeness. And often we fall in line because we don’t want to appear “loud and ghetto”. And even after you’ve become “loud and ghetto” people dismiss you. In short, they use the angry Black woman narrative as a means of keeping Black women quiet.
Feminista Jones and many other “loud Black girls” took their views to twitter as a means of communicating how dangerous it could be to silence Black women. Through tweets and the hashtag #LoudBlackGirls, Black twitter took back and reclaimed the term “loud”. They showed the many ways that America mistreats and takes advantage of Black women by using their voices to aid mainstream, popular movements and ideas, but criticize the same voice when it’s used to address issues that impact Black women specifically, which is exactly why Erica Garner was pissed during the townhall. They wanted to promote the townhall by using her name yet they conveniently silenced her voice.
It’s time that we say “fuck that” and stop giving a damn about what others have to say about our voices. If my voice is good enough to advocate for mainstream popular issues, it’s good enough to advocate for issues that impact the lives and bodies of Black women. Everyone else is able to voice concern and demand respect anyway. When a White woman yells and screams at the Target cashier demanding that she be able to use an expired coupon, she’s seen as a frustrated soccer mom. All this, while Black women are dismissed and pushed away when attempting to address any sort of issue.
The silencing of our voice isn’t all about complaints or social issues either. Y’all remember the Black book club that was put off a wine train because they were laughing too loud? Yea, that was some bullshit, but a true depiction of what goes on in the day and the life a Black woman. Always welcomed to be seen, but she must never dare to be heard.
This hashtag brings forth points that without the loud Black girl, we wouldn’t even have the famous #BlackLivesMatter movement. We are so much more than a bunch of accessories and place fillers. We are people. We laugh, love, cry, and demand to be heard. No more silencing the voice of Black women by condemning them and referring to their voices and undesirable, loud, and ghetto. Instead, we must take back the phrase of “loud Black girl” and use it for good. We must stand firm and continue to love and use our voices—enough with tone policing and shaming. Our voices matter and they won’t be silenced for the comfort of anyone.
Afros and Ovaries
Laughing loud on the CTA