I Fight Babies and Old People-- Watch Your Mouth
I’m so tired of older people getting away with rudeness and bullshit all in the name of “They’re old… They’re just stuck in their ways and they’ve been like that for years. Just try to ignore them.” With the exception of those who suffer from Alzheimer's and other diseases that may cause memory loss and brain disorders, old people are just like the rest of us. They understand that their words have lasting impacts and can be hurtful, they just don’t give a damn because they know people will cape for them and excuse their behavior. That’s not fair and I’m not going to deal with it.
Earlier this week while having a conversation with my mom, I mentioned something an older member of the family said to a young person. Immediately, my mother began to cape for the older person using that tired ass mantra, “Well, they should know by now how she is and they should just brush it off because she’s been that way for years and she probably won’t change anytime soon.” I understand the saying “You can’t teach an old dog new tricks”, but we’re not talking about dogs in this case, we’re talking about humans who have a higher capacity for learning and understanding than a dog who chases its tail for excitement. That said, please stop toting around this idea that after the age of 35 people are no longer able to learn or evolve. Too often people use age and as a reason to be a bad person.
Hold these people responsible for the shitty things that they do to others. Stop letting rude comments fly without challenging them simply because a person is older. There is a difference between disrespecting someone and not allowing a person to disrespect you. As always, I approach situations seeking a peaceful resolution, but if all else fails… I fight babies and old people. There is a basic respect that everyone deserves. However, older people tend to forget that when they want to say what’s on their mind without a filter of any sort. They often expect that they will say what they want without any repercussions because of their age. This has got to stop. Y’all ignorant ass grandmas are around here seriously hurting people and never hearing about it because the entire family is too afraid to say something or they don’t want to appear as disrespectful.
Remember last year when those “Thanksgiving Clap Back” posts were circling around social media? They were funny and sad at the same time. This is because it gave an accurate picture of the bullshit that younger folk deal with during family encounters. There’s always that aunt that needs to remind you that you’re going to hell because you out here sleeping with the same sex. Can’t forget about the older cousin that’s always calling your hair nappy or grandma telling you that you need to lose/gain weight. While some of these things can be said harmless, much of it is said with the intent to hurt or harm. Older family members who hurt feelings and cause public shaming in the name of “Saying it like it is” need to be called out on their bullshit bullying tactics. It’s almost as if they want to shame you into changing your sexual preference, hairstyle, or career choice. Even when these comments are made as jokes, people have the right to determine what they will and will not accept as a “harmless joke”. Please don’t get your daily dose of laughter at someone else’s emotional expense. We can’t allow ignorance to fester within our families. There are other ways to have fun than by being mean spirited towards others.
I know one thing, y’all better get granny together before she crosses my path because she’s not too old for a good ol’ cussin’ out if she bring that bullshit my way. Oh, and as for those bad ass kids that like to run around terrorizing folks while you sit back and laugh… keep them from around me because I’m a liberal who still believes in the power of an old fashioned ass whoopin’.
Afros and Ovaries
Praying for y’all as the holiday season approaches