Learning to Enjoy the Beauty of the Process
Growing up in the midwest all I knew was flat, grassy, soybean covered land (outside of Chicago of course). I promised myself that I would leave this boring place as soon as I got the chance. Yearning to go on a road trip and experience true scenery, I knew that I would move far away from the Midwest to a place with lovely hills and valleys when I “grew up”.
Recently, I traveled through Illinois, Indiana, and Ohio for the Fourth of July weekend. While traveling, I took a moment to stop and look around. I turned and told my friend, “You know what… this isn’t that bad”. As I gazed into the sky, I admired the sunset and how the sun kissed the stalks of corn. The grass appeared extremely green-- like, super green, a healthy green. In that moment I realized that I was so busy hating the midwest and the boring corn that I hadn’t taken the time to appreciate the beauty of it all. The point of this story is enjoying where you are in life. Even if you want to move on at some point, there is no point of hating and complaining about your current state. Learn to be content.
Now let’s not get this confused with complacency. I’m not advising you to throw all of you hopes and dreams out of the window. Instead, I’m hoping that you all can learn to be content and happy with the moment. When I was in high school I was so worried about “just getting it over with” and going to college. In undergrad, I just wanted to get my degree and head to grad school. Now I’m in grad school and I’m so worried about my next step and I can’t even keep up with the NOW of it all. It’s okay to plan and keep you eyes on the prize-- don’t lose sight of the end goal. At the same time, don’t forget to enjoy where you are. Whether you’re a broke college student or an entry level analyst for a small startup company. Being broke, having no voice at the company meetings, or even being an intern that gathers lunch orders has its perks. All of those are perks that you will miss once you’re at next phase of life. I never thought that I would miss not having money (I still don’t have much). But now I dream of the times when I was piss poor with 48 cents in my account, things were simple. I didn’t have money but I also didn’t have bills. As a kid, adults would say: “enjoy it while it lasts, one day you’ll look back and wish you were a kid again.” They were right.
The same goes for people who live in the past. Those “I used to be…” people. My friend just turned 27 years old and a few weeks leading up to his birthday he kept saying “I’m getting old! I can remember being 24!” So busy thinking about how young he was and how simple life was at that time that he was forgetting to live in the moment. Yea, life happens and if we’re blessed, we get older. So why sit and complain about the things that we know are going to happen. Let’s just focus on the NOW.
My life might not be perfect, I may be able to look back on old photographs and notice how thin I was, or close my eyes and imagine my corner office with the perfect view. However, in doing all of these things, I make note of the right now moments and I appreciate them for all that they are to me. It’s my life and I’m going to enjoy the journey, process, and headache of creating the person that I want to become. I hope that this will encourage you to live in the moment and soak up everything that life has to offer, good and bad.
Until next time, I love you all.
Afros and Ovaries