Why I Don't "Educate" Social Media Trolls and Assholes
I don’t “educate” people on social media. I just don’t. And I don’t plan on starting any time soon either. First, let’s clarify. There is a difference between having a healthy discussion with someone and being a victim of an internet troll’s ignorance. In most cases, positive things can happen as a result of a fruitful discussion. Either, you will walk away still disagreeing with the person but understanding their point of view better or you will leave the situation with a better view of their opinion and maybe even adopt some aspects of their perspective. However, when dealing with a know-it-all internet asshole, the only results will be frustration and a realization that there are really people out here who are just that stupid.
When a person is willing and ready to make ignorant statements will little to no support for their argument, it tells me a lot about their character and level of social intelligence. Trying to educate these people is a fight that you will always lose. Buried in the grave of ignorance, they have found comfort in their resting place. They’ve found comfort and they do not want to leave that dark place of ignorance. That’s it. You’d be wasting your time and breath trying to educate them on any subject because they don’t want education.
That leads me to another thought. Those who are honestly seeking education will come to the conversation with some resources. These good people will go out of their way to use a free tool known as Google before entering a conversation. On the other hand, the trolls and assholes will build a straw man argument compiled of opinions and “I heard…” statements. I will not take my valuable time to help a person understand where I’m coming from and they have not taken the time to type simple things in the search engine on their iOS device. When I deal with internet dumbasses, it’s usually from a white male that is hell bent on telling me how my feelings and opinions are not applicable or valid in a certain situation because of some magical potion white folk refer to as “reverse racism”. I’ve said this once before, but I will say it again— in the classroom setting, one does not raise his hand and speak in front of the class without doing the proper research to ensure that the response is correct. Instead, he keeps his hand down and listens to those who have taken the time and effort to read the required text and complete the online quiz. It is not until he has done the reading and feels as if he has a valid response that he raises his hand to be called on to speak. This is the same concept that should be brought to social media as it relates to touchy subjects. It is much easier to “educate” someone on a topic or issue when they have done the general research on the topic and has some sort of understanding of the topic’s logistics. Once this person has done their homework, I don’t mind further explaining a concept. However, these girls out here who refuse to read an academic article on the issue that they are arguing for or against will get no love from me.
Trust me. I understand that I can’t simply expect a person to know the things that I know because it makes my life easier. All that I ask is for a little effort to be applied before you come onto my social media space talking the bullshit—or any other social media platform for that matter. In fact, I feel that if a person is offended by a specific action or situation, it is that person’s duty to let it be known that they are offended. As the offender, it is proper to listen and digest why it is offensive as to avoid doing the same things once more and offending again. Part of the digestion may come in the form of some independent research. One may go home after a Halloween party and type “why is blackface not cool” in their Google search engine. From that point, one may not completely agree with the ideas, but he or she will have a better idea of why these things are simply not cool and very insensitive to a group of people. That is an example of the type of educating that I prefer. This is a case of “I’ll tell you where/when/why/ how you’re fucking up so you can do better.” When these folks get to talking out of their asses about how I’m being sensitive and I should get over the things that offend me, they lose me and are directly referred to Google.com. Why? – because I don’t have time for foolishness.
My time can be better spent doing something for those who will appreciate my efforts. I can be doing my sister’s sew-in or writing a blog. Instead I’m spending my limited time having a Facebook war with someone who doesn’t even care about what I’m saying because their main goal is to upset me or share a link to a broadcast on Fox news about Black people failing to respect authority. I really don’t have the time for that mess.
My last reason is simple. You’re not paying me. I would spend all day debating an asshole in an attempt to educate them if I knew that I could send them my invoice at the end of our session. If these things happened, I would seriously consider “educating” folks on social media as a side hustle. However, this isn’t the case. I damn near lose money and time after wasting my free wifi to respond to foolishness on the internet. Until these girls start paying me for my research, I’m not doing it. I spend enough time at my stupid ass job researching things for ungrateful white folk, I don’t want to do it for free while I’m supposed to be home watching the Regular Show.
For you folks that don’t mind spending your time “educating” someone don’t let me shit on your shine—continue doing you. I just speak for myself. I’m not a good teacher and I know these things. I get frustrated with stupid people easily and I personally hate repeating myself. Those things combined do not make a good teacher. Honestly, even if I did have the time and skills to teach a troll a lesson, I still won’t because I understand that those people aren’t ready or willing to learn. It would be wasted effort. We have to play basketball, be funny, let them steal our music, be silent, AND be the Google liaison—hell nah... NO!
I want folks like me to keep this in mind during these heated times. If you’re anything like me, then you’re probably not a people-person. I don’t like people enough in general to take the time to educate a troll on a particular issue. I want them to understand that it’s okay to not feel the need to explain and give history lessons to these trolls. It’s okay because you have better things to do with your time. There is no need to perform their Google search tasks as well. One shouldn’t be made to feel guilty about that either.
The next few days will be full of stupid people asking for more footage of the classroom. People will be making statements like “she should have stopped using her phone when he told her.” Those will be the things that you will see on social media. At that point, you can either continue scrolling or you can simply give a counter agreement and wait for a response. If at any point during the conversation, you get the feeling that this person is completely ignorant and not educated on the topic, then it’s okay to stop and suggest that they run a Google search on the issue. Hell, it’s okay to just stop responding. It’s okay to unfriend that hoe because you don’t need that kind of negativity in your life.
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